Like many people, I have entire conversations in my head that no one else knows about. I examine past events in detail so see if I could have done better. I speculate on the possible reason for the grocery clerk to be short with me, and I justify my actions to no one in particular.
To some extent it is helpful. Sometimes I learn something, but more often it is just noise in my head. Sometimes I have such a rich internal life that sometimes I forget to notice what is around me.
I drive on auto pilot, arriving at my destination without any memory of the trip. I put down my keys while thinking of something else and then can’t find them. I eat a whole block of chocolate without noticing because my mind was somewhere else.
What a waste.
Studies suggest that living in the moment is important for happiness. If you are always thinking of something else then it is hard to enjoy the here and now, to enjoy the smell of new washing, the detail in the clouds, or the smile of a friend. Minutes, days and years go by and we fail to make the most of them by being here in body and in spirit.
One time I was trying to explain one of my random musings to my long suffering husband. He listened patiently and then said simply “don’t think too much.”
With these wise words in my head, I stopped second guessing the situation and just let it be. My stress levels dropped instantly.
To you, my good friends who read this blog, be mindful..
Enjoy the moment, savour the simple pleasures, relish the opportunities, and be thankful for each minute.
It will make you happier.